1. Affirm Your Children – Through honest praise, treating them with respect, special one on one talks and showing affection. Let them know when they do something well instead of pointing out their mistakes all the time. Say “please” and “thank you” when you ask them to do something. Take one of your kids for a special trip to the store or let them help you with a project. Make sure you give out lots of hugs and kisses and don’t forget to smile.
2. At the Meal Table – Make meals special and fun! Talk about your plans for the day at breakfast and discuss the highlights of the day at dinner time. We like to set a pretty table and enjoy eating outdoors when the weather is nice. Sometimes its fun to read a special book together at the end of the meal. I used to enjoy reading seasonal books to my children when they were young.
3. Make Family Life Fun – Try to plan a special time for family fun! Maybe on Friday night or Sunday afternoon or both. We usually have pizza on Fridays and watch a video together and save Sunday afternoons for a fun outing or just a ride somewhere different. The kids know that nothing else is planned during that time. They are our priority! My dad was a wonderful example here! He would take us to boat shows, car shows, apple picking, to get icecream, or just a country drive.
4. Encourage Productiveness – Lets face it our children can do a lot more than we think. They will grow in confidence as they grown in skills. Let them make bread, help you plant flowers in the garden, try new recipes on their own and anything else they seem interested in doing. The experience will do them good and help them to discover their talents.
5. Nourish them in the Word of God – Make sure your children own bibles that are suitable for their age.
They have the most wonderful children’s bibles now with beautiful illustrations. My Son loved the comic book bible when he was young. You can buy them each a special bible to keep in their rooms for their own quiet time. Encourage them to look at it at night before lights out. Tell them they have 10 minutes and you will come and tuck them into bed. They will feel special and develop a habit of reading the word before they are even reading.
My daughter would sit on her bed and look at the pictures when she was four. Now that she is a teen she finds it relaxing to read her bible before going to sleep at night. Let them choose the bible that appeals to them. Give them the catalogue and let them choose!
The goal is not to be a nagging complaining mom who always finds fault. But to be a supportive mother who encourages your children through affirmation and affection, mealtimes together, planning fun activities, finding productive things for them to do and nourishing them spiritually.